01/30/2024

Allentine’s Day: A Valentine’s Day for Everyone

Leave it to Trader Joe’s for the reminder to plan a romantic Valentine’s Day dinner with their displays devoted to the holiday. You’ll find everything from a pair of strip steaks to heart-shaped macarons. Reluctant singletons may want to avoid going there until Saint Patrick’s Day. This token holiday of love has become controversial. For couples it can become treacle with its chocolate samplers that crimp the winter diet and flammable lingerie. Those who are unattached have the Galentine’s options that involves slabbing on clay masks and drinking way too much carbonated alcohol. Allentine’s Day has become our  household policy, which opens up the holiday to not just the one you love but ones you love.

 

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12/30/2023

Do New Year Resolutions Work? Yes and No…

Buy local. Eat the potato skins. Use the mouthguard that wasn’t paid for by your dental insurance. Try not to laugh when your neighbor’s bathrobe flies open as they get the mail. New Year resolutions can be an exhaustive list that outlines shortcomings. And do they even work? It’s a semantics issue.

New Year resolutions may set you up for disappointment but having goals is a healthy practice. For example, ways to eliminate stress by increasing activity, eliminate toxic relationships, and choosing kindness are qualities to live by.

Delivering on healthy goals doesn’t have to be limited to New Year resolutions.

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06/12/2023

Why Letter Writing Is Always In Style

Summer’s arrival is the perfect time to reengage with letter writing

Letter writing has countless benefits, including gathering your thoughts and showing care via a handwritten note.

The packing list for sleep away camp is as standard as a recipe for chocolate chip cookies. Throw in stationary and stamps and you can hear the cartoon screech happening in your child’s mind. Do they even know how to address an envelope? Where do you get the material to write about? What’s a mail box? And how do you write something without grazing your fingertips across a keyboard? In today’s digital age, letter writing isn’t simply a lost manner that needs to be resuscitated like gifting care baskets to the less fortunate. Letters are testimony to genuine social graces and human connection.

“I definitely believe that letter writing still serves a purpose in the digital age,” says Katherine Kelly, who teaches English at Darien, Connecticut’s Middlesex Middle School. “There is something special about receiving a handwritten note.”

Thoughtful expressions

The act of choosing the right stationery and putting your thoughts into a personalized note shows time and care. Letters are more notable in today’s culture when a handwritten note without emojis stands out among the more typical pieces of mail. “I don’t think there’s anything wrong with embracing the ease of digital communication,” says Kelly, “but taking the time to write or read a handwritten letter brings me a joy that I don’t always experience with digital messages.”

Letter writing benefits

Similar to reading, writing is a cerebral skill that improves with practice. Its benefits are also transformative. Jason Courtmanche, Director of the Connecticut Writing Project and a professor of English and Education at UConn, oversees the annual Letters About Literature contest in conjunction with the Neag School of Education. Participants read a book, poem, or speech and write a letter to that author (living or dead) about how the text affected them personally.

“I enjoy sponsoring the Letters About Literature program because it honors two of the most important things about literacy—writing to an audience and for a purpose, and reading literature to be transformed,” says Courtmanche.

Making an impact

Kevin Daniele, Middlesex Middle School’s 7th grade Healthy Living teacher, worked with an organization that allows students to write handwritten notes of encouragement to individuals recovering from addiction. Despite the students anonymity for protective measures, the students were able to read through the replies and see the impact they had made on complete strangers from their notes of support.

“I know that my students have really developed a sense of accomplishment and community from writing these letters,” Daniele says. “You can see the lightbulb go off about how their letters made an impact on someone else’s life. That was always the coolest part for me.”

It’s fun and rewarding

An essay on the Boxer Rebellion this is not. Letter writing is an opportunity to reflect, gather your thoughts, and creatively express yourself in the written form. It’s a way to relive key moments or feelings and share them in a personal way. 

Letters also move the spirits. Similar to journal writing, there’s a release of emotions and therapeutic benefits that happen when you put your thoughts to paper. 

Getting started

Kelly suggests beginning the writing process by choosing the right friend or loved one. Consider the dialogue you would have in person with these people — the stories you would you tell and questions you would you ask. Most likely you will be writing more than you would in a text, thus employ conversational devices in your letter. “Make sure to greet the other person, introduce yourself if necessary, and say goodbye when you are finished,” Kelly says. 

Just good etiquette

Aside from thank you notes and condolence letters, any just because occasion shows good manners. Etiquette is essentially an ode to treating others with old-fashioned consideration and respect, and letters are its calling card.

The art of letter writing is a classic form of communication with a myriad of benefits. The writer takes the time to gather his/her own thoughts, eloquently write them down, and the recipient has a treasured keepsake that shows care.

It also honors human connection, Not to mention, it’s great for handwriting practice in this digital age.

As the summer season promotes leisure time, stock up on writing materials, replenish your stamps, and make it a part of your family’s ritual to embark on regular letter writing.

Resources

Letters About Literature Contest: https://education.uconn.edu/letters-about-literature-contest/

 

08/13/2021

Why We Love the Three-Day Weekend

The time bomb ticking sound of the 60 Minutes stopwatch has become the symbolic foe when entering the workweek. To feel fully restored after the weekend’s events put a lot of pressure on those two days. A lesson learned from remote work during the pandemic is how to use time effectively, like working with limited disruptions in the morning and late evening. The ability to tackle deadlines as they come without feeling the pressure of a Friday punch out time also contributes to productivity. We are digital, tasks can be attended to despite what the clock says. There is also relief from knowing you have time devoted to leisure: no emails, phone or distractions from that Zoom-happy coworker who bombards your email with countless meeting invites.

A three-day weekend softens the blow of the Sunday time bomb into acquiescence. If you have an equilibrium of relaxation throughout the week, knowing that the demands of your job were successfully met, you are more apt to enjoy your time away from the office. Days off also promote family relations, health, and well-being. Three-day weekends have additional benefits such as limiting the expense and rigmarole of commuting. There is less of a strain on the environment. Lastly, the younger generation enjoy the benefits of stronger family connections with working parents who can make that Friday evening football game.

07/01/2021

How to Avoid Becoming a Stereotypical Housewife

Hauling the contents of your Manhattan apartment to the suburbs to raise a family doesn’t mean you have to leave your city identity behind. It seems that every few years there’s a hyped movie covering the scenario. The iconic Stepford Wives, which was written in 1972 and then became a film in 1975, portrays Joanna Eberhart, a New York City photographer who moves to Connecticut with her young family. Joanna is disturbed by the conformed lifestyle and questions if the wives are robots. This emblem of a period has endured by referring to Stepford wives, or living in Stepford, as the archetypal housewife who becomes a casualty of suburban living. A little over twenty years later is Ang Lee’s equally rich film The Ice Storm, which is also partially filmed in New Canaan, sealing its stature as ground zero of housewife breeding. The suburban stereotype analogue moves to the present with Netflix’s miniseries “Sex/Life,” which is far less nuanced than its predecessors. (Translation: a bit trashy). The storyline follows every cliche involving Billie, a young mother who yearns for her city life and the hunky bad boy who resides there, over the ho hum existence in her hometown of Greenwich. It doesn’t help that her handsome husband Cooper seems unable to shake everything his tie-wearing corporate life comes with. The first episode is titled “The Wives Are in Connecticut” to reinforce the theme.

Make gardening a positive experience if you enjoy it.

So why is the Connecticut housewife being blatantly labeled? The short answer is affluence and boredom. As a mother who lives in a commuter Connecticut town, the housewives are everywhere. They have significant income to spend on massive cars, customize cubby rooms to organize their kids endless gear, and participate in the town’s variety of fitness facilities and blow bars. Though for those who are reluctant to participate in the coterie, follow this 12 step program to stay aligned with your life before suburbia.

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04/21/2021

Natural Allergy Remedies that Work

Allergies can really take the fun out of being human. As an allergy sufferer, I’ve been prodded and pricked by a specialist and lost all sense of womanhood from using a Neti pot or shooting saline up my nose. You become a specimen in the search of finding relief from headaches, fatigue, and all the symptoms of a cold. Breathing normally is your life’s mission.

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03/10/2021

Kids at Home, Bored, Too Much Digital Time? Get Crafting!

It doesn’t get more one-of-a-kind than when you make it yourself. Crafts also come with countless benefits aside from making the envy of all pencil cases. When children come together in a non-competitive environment, it promotes camaraderie. Says Erika Allen, founder of Make Modern, a crafting workshop in Darien, Connecticut, “Kids are really nice to each other when they are in a crafting environment. In our model, everyone is going to leave with something fantastic. It’s different from the way we think of athletics or schoolwork.” Crafting as a group may be non-competitive but there still is that drive for success, the desire to make the best craft you can without the pressure, and everyone comes away with an art project without having a final winner.

Erika Allen of Make Modern arranging some of the featured crafts. We’re loving that penguin.

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02/22/2021

Promoting Mental Well-Being for Young People During Challenged Times

We are of the belief that pity parties are never much fun. While COVID-19 has been one of the most trying experiences in people’s lifetimes, without undermining the tragedy of unexplainable loss, the focus to remain positive and maintain a healthy mental outlook, notably with our youth, is something we can control.

In a recent podcast on happy healthy with Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Dr. Amanda Craig of MMFT, she reviews useful guidance on how to keep young people in a positive disposition during these unprecedented times.

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02/15/2021

The Simple Act of Meditation: Stress Welcomed

Meditation may bring to mind people who do lotus positions in the wilderness and breathe out inhuman guttural sounds. I’ve considered myself too high energy to meditate, which is why Whitney Ross, Integrative Health Coach of Whit & Well, advised that it’s time to take meditation seriously. Whitney has gained insight on the practice through Yoga and Meditation expert Sarah Barrington, who guides people on how simple the process is. 

Create a relaxing environment, disconnect, and focus on breathing. You are now meditating!

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01/28/2021

Ways to De-stress Naturally

If the chaise lounge approach to managing stress with a therapist isn’t your style, or you just can’t get an appointment since psychoanalysis is as in-demand as adopting a rescue dog, we have some natural solutions. You may find that some of these feel-good exercises will be so effective, they’ll become a regular part of a healthy lifestyle.

Find elements that make you feel good naturally, like healing crystals, stones, and activity.

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